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Reality / Silence

  • HomeHome
  • A Reality UnseenA Reality Unseen
    • IntroductionIntroduction
    • GalleryGallery
    • StoriesStories
      • MandisaMandisa
      • ElizabethElizabeth
      • SindiswaSindiswa
      • ShameenaShameena
      • RosettenvilleRosettenville
    • BackgroundBackground
  • Silence Beyond the RiverSilence Beyond the River
    • IntroductionIntroduction
    • Full GalleryFull Gallery
    • StoriesStories
      • Ukuthwala is painfulUkuthwala is painful
      • I fought with all my mightI fought with all my might
      • When he saw me, he picked meWhen he saw me, he picked me
      • I wanted to marry himI wanted to marry him
      • When she says no she actually means itWhen she says no she actually means it
    • Terminology & InfoTerminology & Info
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I fought with all my might

June 30, 2014UkuthwalaMelanie Doucakis0 comments

Year of Birth: 1956 Ntsimbini, Lusikisiki, Eastern Cape “I was 13 when I was thwalad, my husband was 17. We used to carry mugs to school so we could stop at the river for a drink of water on our way to and from school. I was at the bank of the river and I […]

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When he saw me, he picked me

June 30, 2014UkuthwalaMelanie Doucakis0 comments

Year of Birth : 1996 Mqanduli, Eastern Cape “I was 13 when I was thwalad, my husband was 17. My cousin and I were sent on an errand to a house in a neighbouring village. When we got there my cousin was sent back home and I was told I was remaining behind to be […]

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Ukuthwala is painful

June 30, 2014UkuthwalaMelanie Doucakis0 comments

Year of Birth: 1964 Mfundisweni, Flagstaff, Eastern Cape “I was 18 when I was thwalad, my husband was 34. My parents had sent me to town to do groceries. When I got off the bus on my way home there were four men waiting at my bus stop. They started helping me with my groceries […]

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When she says no she actually means it

June 30, 2014UkuthwalaMelanie Doucakis0 comments

Chairperson in the Senate of the King’s Council Year of Birth: 1942 Location: Spaqeni, Eastern Cape   “Ukuthwala was a way of marrying a girl you’d been propositioning for months. You’d be dating – even though she never once said she loves you – because you’d spend lots of time alone together, you’d kiss and […]

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I wanted to marry him

June 30, 2014UkuthwalaMelanie Doucakis0 comments

Year of Birth: 1986 Mqanduli, Eastern Cape   “I was 18 when I was thwalad, my husband was 23. I was a willing participant. His family knew and was expecting me, my family had no idea. My boyfriend said he wanted to marry me, and I agreed. He took me to his home where his […]

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